The Art of Loneliness...

Hey There!

So how is everyone doing?? I've been thinking about doing this blog post for a while now, but I guess it as just something I never actually wanted to complete. But now I'm here, writing this post, and hopefully some people will be able to relate. 

So when I started university in September, I knew it was going to be a struggle for me. I'm not a very outgoing person, I get nervous talking to new people, so going to a place where I knew absolutely no-one seemed like one of the scariest things in the world. Looking back on it now, I don't really know what I had to worry about. Everyone there was in the same boat, and we are all just stumbling through university. I've realised you need social support. You need people that you can moan to, and go out for lunch with, and just be plain stupid with. And if I'm being honest, I have very few of these people. I mean, I have one person. 

All but one of my friends moved away for university, but this last friend works most days now so it's hard to see her. As a group, we haven't necessarily lost contact, but we don't talk as much as we used to. When we are all around we have a really good time, and we do all really miss each other, but I can see now we all have our own separate lives. I miss this contact. Being so far away from everyone at uni, and living just with my parents, they are mostly the only people I talk to now. I miss the friendships I used to have. When people just lived around the corner and I can go and see them whenever. But now, I spend a lot of my time with my own thoughts. 

Spending time thinking to myself is not good for me. I went through a tough time a couple of years ago, and last year was tough again. I don't want to burden other people will my problems, so I keep them to myself a lot. I know this isn't a good thing to do. But until the summer, when all my friends come home, it will have to do. I'm not going to tell them my problems, I can push them aside for a couple of months and forget about them. It's not exactly a long-term solution but it gets me through day-to-day. Don't get me wrong, I am a loner. I like spending time on my own and listening to music and watching TV. But I miss being able to go for coffee with friends and actually go out, because that isn't fun to do on my own. 

I don't really know why I wrote all this to be honest. I have no idea how much sense any of this made, I just needed to get it off my chest. This is a sort of therapy for me and a way of accepting who I am. And I know that now. I need to use this blog more often. I need to get my thoughts across no matter how small or stupid. I need to just get them out there so I don't self destruct. 

Girl Without a Plan, Making Plans

xoxo

End of a Chapter, Start of a New Book

Hi There!

So 2015 has ended and it has been such a mix of emotions for a year. There have been moments this year when I have been so elated I don't think I could be any happier, and then moments this year when I have felt so defeated I had no idea how things could improve. 

There have been so many things this year that I have been happy for. I guess the main thing that has happened is that I made it into university. Surviving 7 years at the same secondary school some people would think of as torture, for me though, it was where I have made the most memories. I met people there that will hopefully stay in my life, and heck, hopefully people I will never have to see again! Getting past GCSE's, AS Levels, and then finally A Levels with good enough grades that I got into the university I wanted made me feel on top of the World! It gave me that bit of confidence that I can do something! 

Also this year I went on my first ever girls' holiday to Ibiza, and again, this was one of the best experiences ever. As a group of friends, we know each other so well, we are able to just get along for a week, in a heatwave, by the pool, and with cocktails. Having the freedom to do what we wanted, when we wanted, was amazing. Ibiza is a beautiful island as well! It is definitely somewhere I want to return to, be that to party or sight see ;)

I guess this was also the year however my life turned upside-down. Everything was so rushed and happened all at once, our family was hit head on. As a family, we lost the most important member to us, and 4 months on, I'm still trying to pull myself together. I lost a best friend, someone who I would phone most days for a gossip and share secrets. Someone who helped raise me. I have never felt so heartbroken in all my life. But I can hear her speaking to me. It might sound crazy, but if you are as close as a family as mine is, you are definitely know how people will react and what they would say in certain situations. That's what keeps me going. Every time I find myself getting upset, I know full well she'll be saying "Come on now, no more tears. Have a drink on me and have fun. But more importantly, GET YOURSELF A BOYFRIEND!" It may sound silly, but that is what keeps me going. 

I've decided though instead of the whole, 'the start of a new year is a new chapter', I don't want 2016 to be a new chapter. I want it to be a completely different book. It seems like from this point on, I want to start achieving dreams and improving as a person. I guess that's what everyone says as a New Years resolution, but it is something I need to do. These past 18 years of my life have been amazing, but they are going to be completely different from this point onwards. University means meeting new people, my family has a hole in it, and I need to embrace this.

Life is never going to be the same year to year. Some years are going to be amazing, and others awful, but these things happen. You shouldn't let life keep you down because the thing is, the number of days we have on this Earth is already determined. We never know how long we have left, a day, week, month, year, but we do know life can change in a second. You can't always be prepared for it, but I guess that makes it exciting. 

So here's to a new year, and a new book!

Girl Without a Plan, Making Plans

xoxo

That Exam Life...

Hi There!

I hope everyone's exams are going extremely well!! If it's GCSE's you're probably already half way through or if it's AS' you've finished, or if it's A2's like me, well you're just getting started!!! I don't know about the rest of you, but it definitely seems like exam boards this year are trying to kill us. As far as I know, there hasn't been a decent exam at all so far! Do they not understand that these exams are impacting our futures!! It's like they are setting us up to fail! I can't be the only one that thinks this!!!! Even if these exams are pretty crappy, life still goes on.

So far this exam season, I have probably spent more time thinking about the summer and all my plans than I have actually revising, but I guess you need something to aim towards to get you through it. One thing that has however helped me through these exams, other than daydreaming, is the fact that all of my friends are sticking together. We have been helping each other through breakdowns, motivation, and when we just need a smile. We haven't seen each other a lot, but just sending a text or a funny picture really cheers us up! It's definitely something we all need to get through these exams. 

Other than exams, I have a holiday coming up in 2 weeks! Like OMG how is that even possible. How am I allowed to travel out of the country with my group of friends without supervision! That's just mental. This has therefore meant that a lot of my free time has been spent online shopping and I have discovered I have some weird obsessions. I mean, I'm going for 7 days, so I'm guessing 6 pairs of sunglasses and 5 pairs of shorts should be enough haha. I really need to try and get that under control. At the moment, thinking about lying in the sun and doing nothing for a whole week is what is getting me though my exams!! Get me to the sun!!!

I know this may seem like a pretty pointless blog post, but sometimes it's nice to just talk about pointless stuff. Sometimes people might actually listen and be interested. For anyone that reads this, STAY FUN! When it comes to exams, they can be pretty crappy, but look at what comes after the exams. Weeks and weeks of doing absolutely what YOU want to do and not what other people. Well as for me, I actually have plans for the summer, but for now, 

Girl Without a Plan, Making Plans

xoxo

Closing a Chapter

Hi There!

Now I don't mean for this post to go to deep, but it probably will. For me, it will also probably be emotional, but for you it probably won't. You never know, this might actually relate to you.

School, Sixth Form, it's all coming to an end. From today, I only have 21 days left at my Sixth Form. I will be going back for exams, but there will officially be no more lessons. The thought of even writing that down actually really makes me sad. Many people are so glad to leave and move on from school, but me, not so much. The school that I'm at, I've been there for 7 years! I've grown up there! And I can't believe I am leaving. Now I'm not saying that my years there have been easy because believe me, there have definitely been a lot of up and down moments, but there have also been a lot of good memories made. I have met some of the best people in my life there, and the fact that soon I'm not going to see them everyday devastates me.

I went into my secondary school with a solid group of friends. We had been friends for a while, and we were mostly sorted into the same form. I have to admit, I probably spent the last week of that summer holiday crying because I didn't want to change schools and I wanted everything to stay the same. But after the first week, secondary school seemed like the best thing in the world. I got to spend so much more time with my friends as the days were longer and we got to spend more time together between lessons. I felt like I knew everything about them! And then as the years went by, this friendship grew and grew, and I felt as a group we would never be separated. We managed to survive so many years without a proper argument it was amazing. GCSE's came around and we were all stressed out. But you know what got me through them, these friends. We managed to somehow keep each of us calm, and we somehow laughed our way through our GCSE's. I think you need this solid group of friends. If you aren't the most sociable one, find someone who is just as awkward as you and try and start a conversation with them. Normally they are the most interesting people :)

But then that was the end of it. The friendship, failed. There was no big argument, no massive fallout, not a lot of gossip, but as a group, we wanted different things. Some people wanted to have more a laugh, start living a life, do unplanned things. While others wanted to knuckle down and focus on school and work and the future. Our group split. This was one of the lowest points. I felt like I shared so much with this group, and I shared so many personal things with them, and it pretty much means nothing now. Honestly, I felt I wouldn't be able to adjust to sixth form. We all ended up going to the same sixth form, but we didn't talk. And for 2 years, we still haven't. In a way I don't really mind because I now have a new group of friends, but spending so many years with the same people and just about managing to say 'Hello!' to them when you see them in the corridor is hard. 

Even though this happened, as I have said, it has happened for a reason. That reason is I have now formed the closest bond with my friendship group now, we are inseparable. My group of friends now, we all have the same goal. We want to live every day as children. We don't want to grow up and act like adults. We want to be able to act stupid, and have a laugh, and not care what everyone else thinks. And that is exactly what we do. I don't think I have ever laughed so much than I have over the past 2 years. And that is why it breaks my heart that by September, we are all going our separate ways. We are all going across the country, spreading ourselves around for uni (but not me because honestly, how would my parents survive without me!!). I don't want to not see my friends everyday. Some people in that group I have been friends with since I was 4, and being separated for months on end, that just seems like hell. They've seen the best and worst of me. Others haven't seen that, I don't think I want anyone else to. 

But I guess that's what happens. We are still all going to be a friendship group. No matter what the distance, we are still the same people, and we will still have this close bond that we probably won't be able to make with anyone else. Personally, I don't really want to close this chapter and start a new one. I like where I'm at now, I'm comfortable. But I guess comfortable isn't good, it's safe. University is a new chapter, and it will be just as good as the old one. It will be completely different and unexpected, but that's what makes it interesting. I have no idea how the next 3 years of my life are going to plan out, but hey, I don't know what the next couple of days are going to bring. But I know what I want to do. I want to make sure that I live everyday like it's my last, and make sure that I am making memories everyday. I'm not going to be 17 for long (18 in a couple of days!) I will officially be an adult. But that doesn't mean that I have to act like one, and neither do you. People need to live a little.

That wasn't as deep as I thought! That could have gone a heck of a lot worse. There are so many more things that I want to write about with my time at secondary school, but I guess that is living in the past, and I don't want to do that. I know a lot of this probably won't help any of you, and it's more of like a closure thing for me. But at some point if you haven't gone through this chapter yet, you will. And you will know how it feels. My advice, don't wish your childhood away because you only get one. When people say the school years are the best years of your life, I totally agree with them (and that's not because I don't know anything other than school) I actually have had the best 7 years of my life. 

You want to know a quote that I feel everyone should go by,

"You don't stop laughing when you grow old, you grow old when you stop laughing."

Maybe everyone needs a little laughter in their life, and one wish for all of you, don't wish your life away. Make as many memories as you can while you are at school as they will remain with you for the rest of your life. Life is like a book. You do have a beginning, a middle, and an end. I'm just about starting the middle of my book and I can't wait for what it has to come. 

Girl Without A Plan, Making Plans

xoxo

25 Facts about Me...

Hi There! 

I've been blogging for a while now (even if there aren't that many posts), so I guess as it's the start of a new year and I'm going to be blogging more frequently, I guess you should know some things about me, so here it goes. 

1. What is my middle name? Well as I'm remaining anonymous (I know, SHOCKER!), I'm not going to tell you that one. 

2. What was your favourite subject at school? I guess maths or business.

3. What is your favourite drink? Non-alcoholic: Milk. Alcoholic: Vodka and Coke.

4. What is your favourite song at the moment? I can't help but dance along to Sax by Fleur East, but my favourite song changes hourly!

5. What is your favourite food? Onion rings, nomnomnomnomnom

6. What is the last thing you bought? Ummm bras, a bikini top, jeans, and food (obviously)

7. Favourite book of all time? 13 Reasons Why by Jay Asher. If you haven't read this book, it will definitely change the way you think about life!!

8. Favourite colour? Blue, but like sky blue

9. Do you have any pets? Fish and a cat (who is my baby)

10. Favourite Perfume? Rihanna - Rebelle

11. Favourite Holiday? Portugal, when I was 17 and stayed in a villa with mine and my friends family.

12. Are you married? At 18!! NO WAY!! Got to find a boyfriend first ;)

13. Have you ever been out of the country, if so how many times? Yes, and 9 times (I think)

14. Do you speak any other language? I did GCSE French, so I know how to say "I play football" and "I have brown eyes."

15. How many siblings do you have? Zero, my parents just have me to put up with. 

16. What is your favourite shop? Oh I love a bit of Lush me, can't have too many bath bombs.

17. Favourite restuarant? This is so hard because I basically eat anywhere, but Prezzos caramelised onion garlic bread is pretty amazing

18. When was the last time you cried? I was watching a Christmas film a couple of weeks ago and someone died, definitely a weeper.

19. Favourite blog? To be fair I don't really have one, I kind of just read random ones as I go along, and if I find a post a like I'll read the whole thing aha 

20. Favourite movie? Oh I'm too much of a movie buff for this question. Probably either, Divergent, Harry Potter (pretty much any one), Wild Child, Bring it On, Beauty and the Beast, White House Down. OMG JUST NEARLY EVERY FILM!

21. Favourite TV Show? Either Pretty Little Liars, The 100, or The Walking Dead.

22. PC or Mac? PC

23. What phone do you have? iPhone 5S

24. How tall are you? About 5ft 7 or 8 (I feel like a giant!!)

25. Can you cook? Give me oven food, I can time it just right. Anything else, probably not so much. But I have been told I bake a good marble cake. 

How about you have a go at answering these questions! I'd love to find out more about you!!!

Girl Without a Plan, Making Plans

xoxo